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Wow, these secrets are coming thick and fast today. Fuck yeah.
It’s not that I don’t care about physical appearance. I care about it a great deal. I’m a very umsexualphysical person and aesthetics mean a lot to me. I have to be intensely attracted to someone before I consider dating them (although of course attractiveness is about a lot more than physical features, it’s everything from confidence to good dress sense to a gorgeous smile that lights up their eyes), and I’ve broken up with someone in the past largely because I thought I could simply put aside my lack of physical attraction to them, then realised what an error I’d made. I don’t have low standards. I think I have high standards, in fact. I’m picky. I’ll admit right now to being shallow. Emotional compatibility is also a must have in a potential partner, but honestly? I’d also like to find them hot as hell.
Now here’s the thing. I’m not attracted to skinny people. To me, there’s nothing sensual about a thin body. I’m not attracted to a six pack. I think they look bizarre and unnatural. So, yeah, basically, I have a preference for people with some extra meat on their bones. I’ve gotten jeered at by my friends and called a ‘chubby chaser’. Why is it so hard for people to accept that I don’t simply have low standards or treat me as if it’s so honorable that I’m doing someone ‘overweight’ a favour by dating them? No. Voluptuousness in both women and men is genuinely the sexiest thing possible to me. The person I decided not to be with any more when our relationship started moving onto a physical level was the only skinny person I’ve ever dated. Scrawniness is the biggest cockblock for me imaginable.
I’m not at all saying that there’s anything wrong with thin people, I can appreciate their beauty but it’s just not sexy to me.
Everyone’s tastes are different and there are individuals out there who prefer people who are bigger. People like me who look at male models and go ‘omg they’d be gorgeous if they gained weight’. I personally wouldn’t settle for someone who liked me as a person and was therefore willing to look past my physical ‘flaws’. I’d only want to be with someone who loved my body and lusted after it exactly as it is. They’re out there, I promise you!